Memories, musings (and mistakes) of a Mum

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Didn’t start with a bang. May 4, 2011

Filed under: consequences,do nothing say nothing — Sarah @ 4:20 pm

So far we have not jumped in with both feet. DNSN, was not overly present this morning. It was a morning that both my husband and I had to get out the door on time – sometimes being late is just not kosher, work-wise. So we gave reminders, asked questions, helped and generally did what we had to be done to get out the door. Oh well, there will be other mornings.

Thor is on day 4 of his consequence to last Saturdays performance – no extra-circular activities outside school until he shows us for 5 days that when he gets angry he can use better choices for how to deal with his anger. He asked a funny, but on the head question “but how can I show you if I don’t get angry?” Good point, and maybe the flaw in this “show me”; but it’s what he was in the middle of showing us, so we stuck with it. He’s handled it all fairly well and with good understanding that this is just how it is; he tried to push a bit when it came to today’s afterschool program – kickball – which he loves. But only asked twice (first his Dad and then me – I guess hoping for a different answer); and then dropped it.

That’s it, nothing else to report. Talula has t-ball tonight – her first practice – so I asked what she had to gather to be ready for the practice. She’s got the baseball pants on, and she knows she needs her glove and bat, can’t put her finger on their location right now, but that will be my DNSN moment for today. Oh and getting out the door in time for practice, that will be all her. I hope.

 

Interfering? Who me? May 3, 2011

Filed under: do nothing say nothing — Sarah @ 8:14 pm

If I learned anything from this past weekends’ experience, it’s that I need a refresher. So while I wish I could attend one of Vicki’s classes, it’s just not in the cards for me/us. Vicki has one that starts tonight, so I figured I might as well start at the same time. At least I know there will be many other parents feeling the same angst I will be at the same time. Strangely, that helps.

I have the DVD’s and the Audio. Tonight I decided to go Audio – doing dishes and listening to the audio was great. I have wanted to introduce this to my kids for a while, and I figured with all the school, sports, work and various extra-curricular stuff going on, finding the time to sit down and watch the DVD with them was more than I could hope for right now. It worked, Thor tuned in here and there and stopped in his tracks to do so. Talua, not so much, but nothing really slows her down anyway. Yes, it slowed the night down, but that’s ok, we’re about to enter into DNSN anyway.

Other than the usual – do nothing say nothing stuff – I have to remind myself of two things

  1. This is DNSN interfering, which can be hard after a few go-rounds of the program, because the “non-interfering” strategies start to get used so much they themselves become interfering. But still, I will be posting the question “Are you interfering?” around the house. I think I tend to look at DNSN as a bit of a vaca from my responsibilities as a parent – and clearly that is not the purpose of this.
  2. I will also ask the question “how can you move this forward“? of myself, ALOT. Because that will help me in the next few weeks of this

OK. Off I go.

 

 
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